Brian Kelly

So, I go to Ohio University. However, I live in Cincinnati, I live close to UC, and a lot of my friends go to UC. So, I’ve been hearing a lot of stuff about Kelly leaving to go to Notre Dame. So, I guess I’ll say my little two cents.

Ok, I don’t have a problem with Kelly leaving. Notre Dame offered him more money. He’s probably got a family, and that family needs to eat. Nonetheless, I have a with the timing. Look Kelly, you lead UC to the Sugar Bowl (with a undefeated record). Now, your team will be facing a pretty tough Florida Gator team, lead by Tim Tebow. Wouldn’t you want to finish the job you started?

I think its kind of tactless to leave your team a week or two before they enter one of the biggest games in their football careers. I don’t know Mr. Kelly personally. However, if I were a coach, I wouldn’t do that mess.

Man vs Toddler

Sorry I’ve been away for a while. But check out this funny video.

New Sevin Album coming

My boy Sevin is coming out with a new Album. It’s called “Freedom” and is supposed to have 30+ songs on it. If your a fan of Sevin or any Hog Mob member, check this album out. It drops Nov. 1.

http://www.myspace.com/hogmob

Mixtape Gripes

So, there other day I was looking for some music. I came across the “Lady’s First” mixtape, complilation on female christian rappers, mixed by Dj Sean Blu. The mixtape was good, and a fair amount of songs. But, I did have one gripe.

Now, true music lovers know that a mixtape has certain qualities that a regular album usually doesn’t. Mixtapes are made by Dj’s, and  these Dj’s have the liberty to do what they want (for the most part).

There was a certian song on the mixtape that had nice lyrics and the beat was on point. However, the Dj’s input brought the song down. Why one might ask? Well, a common Dj technique is to repeat a section of the song. Usually the section is repeated anywhere from 1 to 3 times, which isn’t too bad. However, Dj Sean Blu decided to repeat the beginning of this song about 7 times. It was so bad I had to skip the first 30 seconds of the song. You know, I respect Dj’s. A couple of my friends are Dj’s. Nonetheless, a Dj’s job is to enhance to song/album. A Dj should not be  killing the song. I’m not trying to hate on Dj Sean Blu, because I’ve heard his work before. He’s pretty good. But I had a problem with him jacking up the song.

He is the mixtape if you want to listen.

http://www.holyculture.net/free-music/free-mixtape-eternal-blaze-bak-2-birth/

Friends of Friends

Something happened yesterday that made me think. So here’s the short story.

On Tuesday’s and Thursday’s I have a crazy class scedule. Basicly, I don’t have class until 3 pm. So, I left my room around 1:30 because I had to head to the book store. I then headed to class. I got there about an hour early. Fortunately there is a longue near the class room, and I wanted to get ahead on some reading.

So about 40 mintues pass. Now, there is this really fine girl in that particular class, who is also in another class of mine. Now on the first day of class, I introduced myself to her and we became aqinted. But I digress.

Anyway, my friend walks over to the table I’m at, along with a one of her female friends. Now, my friend takes a seat directly next to me, no big deal right? And what does my friend’s friend do? Well, she takes the chair opposite of me, pulls it far away from the table, and then turns it in another direction.

I know when I meet my friend’s friends, I tend to be a bit quiet as well. But for one, I the decency to say hello or give a wave at the very least. I just blushed it off (they both are freshmen, so it’s not like I’m disappointed).

But hey, there’s the story. I just wanted to share it. Peace everyone.

Flaws of the Black Man (dating wise)

A little while ago I wrote a post responding to my friends blog. I talked about things that Black Women do wrong. So, this time,I’ll address what we (Black Men) do wrong. I’ll list, hmm, probably about huge problems that we Black Men bring to the table when dating. So, let’s begin.

5. Cheating: Alright, we as men (especially Black Men) like to “look at the menu”, even after we have “already ordered”. That mess needs to stop.

4. The “Caste/Class System”: Now, you will have to go with me on this, it’s kind of complicated (I’ll probably mess up while talking about it). One day I was checking out this podcast on blog talk radio. The host, “The Player Hater” was giving advice to the ladies. Now, he was explaining this theory (I renamed it the Caste/Class System. He name for it was something different), and he was explaining how women and man classify each other when they meet for the first time. According to the theory, when a woman meets a man, she already knows what that man is going to be to her (it could be friend, close friends, love interest, etc.). Man also do the same. However, there is a difference between how both categorize. When a woman categorizes it’s more like a “caste” system, meaning that category she puts a man is the category he is going to stay in (either forever or for a long time). Now the host didn’t really talk about what males do, but I took time to think about it. When a man meets a woman, we put them in to “class”. This means that when we meet women, they are able to changes classes. I’m sure this isn’t making any sense, but I’m going to try and give an example. Let’s say we (Black Man, males, etc) meet a woman. She’s nice, she’s cool, so we become friends with her. Then, we see we at a party the next night in this amazing outfit. Guess what, she just moved from “friend” to possible interest.

Phew, that was long. Now, I wouldn’t exactly call this a flaw. Well, actually I guess you could. You could say that we just don’t know how to make up our minds (the same thing we accuse women of doing).

3. Not being true (to ourselves and to women): This kind of goes along with Number 2. Anyway, sometimes we as men are to busy trying to be what we think women what instead of being ourselves. If we would just be ourselves, we probably wouldn’t have problems with the ladies. Believe it or not men, women like it when he don’t try to trick them and what not.

2. The “Chameleon Effect”: We males will change the way we act and or speak around certain women. For example, if the woman of interest enjoy sports, then we as males will play sports (or appear to play sports) in order to “woo” the love interest.

1. Game: Well we all (or most of us) know what game is, so there no need to explain what it is. I think spitting game holds us back the most. Now, of course there is nothing wrong with a little chase. However, when Black Men spit “game”, it usually involves playing mind tricks to a manipulate  instead of expressing how we actually feel.

This is just a short list. A lot of this list came from person experiences, except for cheating, I’m never down with that. But I think its important to recognize this. Sometimes we as men will blame women for stuff not working out, but we forget that there are TWO sides involved. We have our issues and struggles too.

What do you look for in a Mate?

Hey everyone. My last post on dating went well, so decided to write a couple more. This time I’m going to pose a question, what do you look for in a mate? This is a question for all people.

Well, I’ll share what I look for when in a woman.

I’m not going to go much into physical attributes part, but I’ll share a little bit. I’ll start off by saying I love all types of women. I say this because it took me a while to get there. From Kindergarten to Sixth Grade I attended a predominately Caucasian school because said school had the best education in my city. Therefore, a lot of my early crushes were White. But once I moved on to Middle and High School, I started to appreciate all women.

So, one thing I look for is a woman with hair (natural, extensions, doesn’t matter). I’m not fan of really short hair as a woman’s hair style.

Now unlike most males, I’m not really concerned about T&A. If a woman has it, good for her. But if she doesn’t, it shouldn’t be held against her.

A lot of what I look for in a woman has to do with her personality. You see, I’m a pretty chilled person. I don’t deal with a lot of drama and very few things stress me out. I’ve learned from experiences that a woman with baggage may not be best choice for me.

I like a woman that is talkative and can hold a conversation. She must also be goal orientated, or at least have a plan of what she would like to be in life. She’s got to be someone I can just chill with. And most of all, she must have a relationship with God.

But hey, that’s just a little off what I look for. Now it’s your chance to speak your piece. This is an open forum. Just play nice ok. Have a good day everyone.

Je’an P Performance at O’Jay’s Celebration

Hey everyone. This is a video of my boy Je’an P’s last performance. He performed at the O’Jays Celebration on Aug 16 in Canton.

A Funny video I saw

This was just something funny I saw. Check it
out

Do ALL Black Men Really Hate Black Women?

The other day I was reading a blog post that my friend put up. In her post, she made the claim that ALL Black Men hate Black Women. You would have to read the whole article to get the proper context of that statement. However, the article made me take a step back and think. So from a Black Man’s perspective, I’m going to try and answer the statement.

I know I’m not qualified to speak for ALL Black man, but its probably safe to say that all of us don’t hate Black Women. I love Black Women, and I believe most Black Men do as well.

Now, I must pause here to explain more about the previous blog post. Another point that was brought up was that Black Men often pick White Women over Black Women.

Now, that is not completely true. However, the amount of Black Men choosing White Women is increasing. I believe Black Men AND Black Women have a part to play in this increase.

Now, I’m going to start with Black Women first (sorry sisters). I have had countless encounters with the Black Woman, and I believe that Black Women have a few qualities and traits which tend to turn off Black Men. I’ll list just a few this time. For one, Black Women tend to play games. I’ll give a few examples. One of my good friends set me up with her friend. Her and I started talking and we were actually pretty compatible. However, during the “getting to know you” process, she told me that I had to face some “tests”. These “tests” included passing a screening from her best friend, coming to her school and interacting with her peers and teacher, and facing interrogation from her friend and her friends boyfriend. Yeah, let all that sink in. I’ve had Black Women tell “your amazing…I’d totally go out with you,” then a week later she claimed “Well, I don’t want to be in a relationship.” I know all this sounds crazy, but I’m sure I’m not the only one who has gone through all this.

Black Women also seem to have slight attitude. Or maybe you could call it an “elevated confidence”. What I mean is, many times Black Women will strut around like they are the finest thing to ever walk the earth. Now let me say this, it is great to have confidence. Nonetheless if your confidence is so high that you appear arrogant, then there is a problem. And many times when we brothers try to speak to these women,  we get disregarded like a common fly. I believe this is a big reason why Black Men sometimes go after White or Asian Women.

Let me explain something to you sisters. When a brother approaches a White or Asian Woman and just says a simple “hello”, we are usually well received. We are not made to feel unworthy or not good enough (which happens a lot when we try to talk to a Black Women).

However, we Black Men play a role as well.  Instead of being concerned about game and swag, we need to worry about getting our education and improving ourselves. We’ve all heard the saying “N****s aint ****”. Although that statement only applies to a small number of Black Men, it taints the image of ALL Black Men. Made if built ourselves up, Black Women wouldn’t have to make this claim, which is too often a true statement in our community.

Well, by this point I have digressed far from my orginal point. So I’ll end with this. It takes two to tango.  Relationships in the Black community have been degrading over the past decade or so. It’s time that we realize that both Black Men AND Black Women have a vital part to play in all of this. I hope you all have enjoyed reading this. Please leave comments. Peace everyone.

PS: Please check out the blog of the friend who inspired me to write this. You’ll think about things in a new light after reading her work.

http://blacktheory.wordpress.com/